Have you found that your work in advocacy has changed the dynamics of your friend circle? How accurate is the saying that quality vs quantity of friendships is key, especially when faced with a chronic condition?
There are friends for seasons and then friends for a lot longer. When I first got sick with chronic illness, I quickly learned who my true friends are. Since then there has been a natural evolution. After my kidney transplant last year, I put my foot down on a lot of behavior from people. I had to cut out a friend. Even though I think about them once in a while, I haven't felt bad once.
Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo Contributor
Yes, it's okay to think about them now and again, but then you learn to carry on to the next. We learn that life is about adjusting and readjusting and having people by your side through most of it says a lot about those true and blue. Best!
Wanda Green Member
My friendship circle ⭕️ ebbs and flows like the ocean. I want to be on the same boat 🛥️ with ppl who have a kindred spirit of supporting each other together. I don't have the energy to put up with selfishness or apathy. I'm done not angry. I've taken back my power. I'm alive today because of my faith, friends, family and fun! Always keep my heart open to new friends who really make a difference in life!
Wanda Green Member
I agree! My ocean reference is reflective of how relationships expand and contract throughout our lives.
DonnaFA Community Admin
, It's a beautiful thing, and understanding it saves us from disappointment and sadness over perceived losses. -Warmly, Donna (Team Member)
Racquel H. Dozier Moderator
Absolutely! I've lost some friends and gained others. Many don't understand the dedication that I as an advocate present day to day. Some have even said why do you talk about your chronic illness so much. I don't sweat it anymore. If you are with me run beside me. If you aren't run off the next exit and keep it moving away from me. ~Racquel~ Team member
Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo Contributor
I totally get this ...especially keeping it moving. I haven't had this direct problem but I think as time goes and growth comes into play - the circle just gets smaller, and that's cool. Thank you for sharing! 😀
Racquel H. Dozier Moderator
absolutely we have to get to a point where it’s okay. I took some time to get there lol 😂 ~Racquel~ team member
Kristal Kent Moderator
My awareness and advocacy work has definitely changed my circle of friends. Lost some long time friends along the way but gained some new ones along the way. While it is unfair and disappointing that you lose some friends along the way, personally, I’d rather know who my support system is right away versus finding out too late. At the end, those who are truly your friends and support you and your mission will be there and will be cheering for you with every accomplishment you achieve.